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Johanna

To Someone Special:

Thank you for reading my letter. I know you love your baby very much, and I am very grateful for your courage and commitment as you consider adoption. I hope that, with your help, I can give your baby a wonderful home.

My name is Johanna. I am single, Chinese and a partner at a law firm in downtown Los Angeles. Along with my parents, two brothers and two sisters, I immigrated to America when I was 12 years old. I am the fourth of five children in my family. We immigrated to the U.S. primarily because my mom wanted a better life for her kids, and she succeeded in giving us that life at the expense of her own lifestyle. Both of my parents worked minimum wage jobs to support our family — Mom worked as a babysitter, a seamstress and a waitress, while Dad stocked boxes at a warehouse. They eventually both worked at, and have now retired from, Wal-Mart. Fortunately, I was able to put myself through college (at UCLA), and law school (at Stanford), and am now a partner at a successful 400 lawyer firm in Los Angeles. I have been at the same firm for more than 10 years. As a partner, I manage complex cutting-edge financial cases that are litigated nationwide.

For as long as I can remember, I have always hoped to have a child, and since my early 20′s, I assumed that I would have my child through adoption rather than childbirth. Christopher, my five year old nephew, has further strengthened my desire to be a parent. His mother (my big sister Jess) is my best friend. It has been a great pleasure to see Christopher grow from a cute infant to an energetic boy with tons of personality, mischief and great kindness.

Whenever I get a chance, I fly to Sacramento to see Christopher and my sister. I was able to take him trick-or-treating last Halloween (he was “Iron Man”). I was also the unofficial photographer at his “Star Wars” themed birthday party last month, where I learned that theme parties are an ingenuous way to get what you want without the hassle of a registry. He got over 20 “Star Wars” toys including a two-foot long Millennium starship from his favorite aunt! I adore my big sister, and have followed her around from UCLA to law school and hope to follow in her footsteps as a great mother who has raised a beautiful, rambunctious kid who shares all of his toys and says all his “please’s” and “thank you’s.” I cannot wait for Christopher to be a “big brother” to his baby cousin.

Although I have been in a couple of serious relationships, I have found that I am happier when I am not in one. Even though there will not be an adoptive father in my child’s life, he or she will not lack for a male role model or love and affection from me or my family and friends. Living only 10 minutes away are my mom and dad with whom I remain very close. They will be a great help for me and any child I adopt. I talk to my mom several times a week, and see them at least once a week for a play, a movie, a Laker game, a trip to a museum, a garden walk, or dinner. Their love for my child will be boundless, and they will be a terrific Grandma and Grandpa team. Grandma is eager to hand down all her recipes, and Grandpa would love a new audience for his well-practiced jokes.

There will be lots of aunts, uncles, cousins and second cousins who will love and adore my child. Jess’ husband (my brother-in-law) is a wonderful father and has already volunteered to come set up my baby’s crib. One of my cousins has a two year old and another one on the way so my child will not lack for playmates at family get-togethers.

Your child will (hopefully) be my first child, and I plan to be an extremely hands-on mom who will be there every night to put my baby to bed and read him or her a bedtime story, who will stay home when s/he gets sick, and who will go to every game and every parent-teacher conference, and I can’t wait. Fortunately, my work is very flexible, and I have control over what work I take on. After taking a three month maternity leave when the baby is born, I will be able to work at home for parts of the week during the first few years. But I do not have any illusions about the demands of being a single parent, and I will hire a nanny to help.

Lots of encouragement, plenty of love, kisses and laughter and a positive outlook towards life will surround my son or daughter. I will trust my child, give him or her space to be responsible and make right decisions, and show them that even when things don’t go as planned, the result is just as good and usually better. I had an excellent education, and my child will too. But aside from books, I hope he or she will also learn the importance of kindness and respect and have an appreciation for diversity, a love of the arts and literature, and a healthy case of travel- and adventure-lust. As for religion, both Catholicism and Buddhism were embraced in my home. Although I consider myself a Catholic, I do not fully subscribe to every teaching of the Church, and I value any faith that gives people hope and teaches them to do good, a belief which I hope to instill in my child.

I live in a great quiet neighborhood, with spectacular views of the mountains. There are several large beautiful parks near my home, but my baby won’t have to go far to see giant oaks, towering bamboos or climbing bougainvilleas which fill my backyard. Home is a 1950s bungalow which I’ve owned since 2001. My home has lots of character, floor to ceiling windows in virtually every room, and a pool. I renovated my home recently, and can’t wait to get started on the baby’s room.

Thank you, again, for reading my letter. Families created by adoption are special, and my child will always know his or her adoption story and the wonderful way we became a family. I know this is a difficult time in your life but I hope it can be a positive one as well. My wish is that we can be of help to one another.

Please feel free to call me toll-free anytime at 1-877-888-1783 if you want to talk further, or email me at ahomeforbaby@yahoo.com. You can also contact my attorney (David Baum) to learn more about the adoption process or about me. He is very easy to talk to and is available to talk anytime at 1-800-795-2367 or at adoptlaw@ix.netcom.com. Also, if you would like to meet in person, we could arrange that as well at your convenience.

Hopefully, I will hear from you so we can go on this journey together, but whatever path you choose I wish you and your baby only the best.

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